Summer of Perceived Freedom for Graduating Seniors

With high school graduation just around the corner for graduating seniors, many young adults are getting ready to embark on their last summer before college. This summer is a big summer for transitions as many are getting ready to move away from home for the first time. For many young adults, it is a very exciting experience. For others, it is very scary. In addition, young adults often display resentment towards parents about rules during this summer, since in a few short months they will be living on their own away at school.

Therefore, here are a few tips to help your young adult and you have an enjoyable, productive, and safe summer before your young adult heads off to college:

1)      Set typical rules about curfew, etc. However, it is very important that you get your young adult’s input on the rules and discuss the rationale for them. As the parent, you are still in charge of your young adult that is living in your house. However, trying to make rules and compromise on non-safety issues can be very helpful in teaching young adults to be responsible.

2)      If your young adult lacks certain life skills such as being able to do laundry, cooking, make their bed (including changing the sheets), teach them to do these skills.

3)      Spend time with your young adult and cherish the time you have with them this summer. At the same time, be respectful of the fact that he or she is moving away from their friends soon, mentally preparing to live on their own, and may struggle at times with coping.  Your young adult likely will also want to spend considerable time with friends this summer.

4)      If your young adult struggles with time management/organization or specific academic skills, seek out supports for them this summer to improve these skills.

I hope that these tips are useful. 

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Dr. Carey Heller is a licensed psychologist with The Heller Psychology Group LLC in Bethesda, Maryland. He specializes in work with children, adolescents, and families, and is happy to answer questions and provide consultations for individuals who are considering pursuing treatment, an evaluation, or other services for their child, adolescent, or themselves. Dr. Heller can be reached at (301)-385-2610 or careyheller@thehellerpsychologygroup.com.

*Disclaimer: The previous information is intended as general guidance based on my professional opinion, does not constitute an established professional relationship,  and should not replace the recommendations of a psychologist or other licensed professional with whom you initiate or maintain a professional relationship*